Dad Stunned After Fiancée Says His Daughter Can’t Come To Their Wedding

Blended families are becoming increasingly common in today’s world. Many of us bring children into new relationships, and we also step into relationships with our partner’s children. Ideally, it all comes together smoothly, and at times, it can be a truly beautiful experience. But there are also moments when things don’t go as planned, and sometimes, favorites emerge, creating tension over how the family dynamic should unfold.

This was the case for a man preparing to marry the love of his life. His heart was broken when he discovered that his fiancée didn’t want his daughter to be part of the wedding. Here’s the story that unfolded.

I (45m) have an 11-year-old daughter, P, from a previous marriage. My ex and I divorced on good terms, and we share 50/50 custody of P. After the divorce, I met my fiancée, S. She and P got along really well, and after five years together, I proposed.

S was thrilled and eager to start planning our wedding. She began searching for venues and asking friends to be bridesmaids. Eventually, she mentioned that she wanted her niece to be the flower girl. I had no issue with that but said I’d like P to be the flower girl as well. S gave me a strange look and told me she didn’t think P would “fit the part.”

I got upset and told S that my daughter would absolutely be part of our wedding. S, in turn, became upset and said that the choice of flower girls was up to her, and P wouldn’t be one of them. I told S that if P wasn’t in the wedding, there might not be a wedding at all. I stormed out and took P for ice cream to cool off.

P knew we were getting married and told me that she thought she would look pretty in whatever dress S decided for her. That broke my heart, and I decided to text S, telling her I needed time to think and would be staying at a friend’s house. My mother-in-law then texted me, saying I was overreacting. She insisted that my daughter didn’t need to be in the wedding and called me an “a**” for threatening to cancel it.

So, did I go too far by saying I’d cancel the wedding, or am I just being a good dad?