Many studies show that nearly 85% of new mothers experience a deep sense of sorrow or emotional struggle after childbirth. For Gretchen, a first-time mom, the transition into motherhood has been overwhelming, and she’s found herself yearning for quiet and space to adjust.
Gretchen’s letter:
“I gave birth 15 days ago, and I’m exhausted. My mom moved in to help me, and I thought that would be enough. But when I spoke with my mother-in-law, I asked for some time to settle into our new routine. I told her, ‘My family needs privacy. I’ll let you know when you can meet your grandson.’ But she kept calling every day, and eventually, I snapped. I told her, ‘I don’t care if it takes months. I’m just not ready yet.’ She nodded, but I could feel her disappointment.
This morning, I woke up to the sound of my baby crying—more intensely than usual. As I tried to gather myself, I looked up and saw my husband’s face turn pale. To my shock, I discovered that 9 members of his family had shown up at our house without warning. They just appeared—his parents, siblings, even the nieces and nephews. And no one had told me a thing.
Apparently, my husband had invited them all over, without consulting me. I was furious. I confronted him, telling him he had no right to make those decisions for us without asking first.
He brushed it off, saying, ‘I think you’re overreacting. It’s not like you were asked to cook or host them.’
But I felt completely overwhelmed, so much so that when I saw my mother-in-law, she had this look on her face—almost like she was pleased to have taught me a lesson. I just couldn’t take it anymore. Without saying a word, I grabbed my purse and left the house, still in my pajamas.
Am I overreacting?”
Yours,
Gretchen