Seeking guidance amidst a tumultuous five-year relationship, a woman sought solace from the online community following a heated dispute with her fiancé.
The disagreement centered around financial concerns, prompting her to reassess the dynamics of their partnership.
In a frank post on Reddit’s ‘Am I The A*****e’ thread, the 32-year-old woman, referred to as Original Poster (OP), recounted her ordeal.
According to OP, she and her 35-year-old partner got engaged after five years of being together. Following the proposal, the couple scheduled their wedding for May 2025.
Following OP’s engagement, her grandmother passed away, leaving her a substantial inheritance. OP’s grandparents had enjoyed successful careers, resulting in a significant sum of money being left to her. However, this windfall sparked trouble in her relationship.
Upon hearing the news, OP’s fiancé expressed immense joy, surprising her with his enthusiasm. Yet, OP overheard him discussing using the money to pay off debts and fund a boys’ holiday with his friends. Confronted by OP, he acknowledged the source of the money but faced her ire when she asserted her ownership over it.
In a heated exchange, OP asserted her control over the inheritance, rebuffing her fiancé’s assumption that he could use it as he pleased. She made it clear that the money was hers alone, inherited from her grandmother, and not to be appropriated for his personal desires.
The argument escalated into a shouting match, leading OP to leave the room in distress. Later, her fiancé confronted her in the kitchen, admonishing her for embarrassing him in front of his friends and asserting his entitlement to her inheritance. Feeling overwhelmed, OP left the house without a word and sought refuge at her friend’s place.
In her post, OP questioned whether her actions made her an a*****e.
The response from fellow online users was overwhelmingly sympathetic and supportive, validating OP’s feelings and condemning her fiancé’s behavior.
You better ditch him AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!! Telling his friends that he’ll fund a boy’s holiday with them should be your first clue as to how he plans to spend your money. I noticed he didn’t say anything about THE TWO OF YOU going on a nice holiday or go on a cruise. First thought was his friends. (That should be another clue for you to dump him.) If you got married, he would live off you, wheedle his way into having you give him money for one thing or another that you “both” must have, spend it all like there was no tomorrow. One last thing to be aware of; he may now tell you that he is sorry for what he said. He knows the money is yours, mea culpa, I won’t do it anymore. But, after you’re married, his story will change. Save yourself the stress and aggravation. DUMP HIM!!!